Building A True Bond

How do I make a relationship last and build a truly genuine bond of friendship and love with a person while keeping the relationship exciting?

Anonymous

It is possible that the two of you like each other deeply but take time to evaluate if love is what you both truly feel for one another. True love is certain, it is never uncertain as the great Maya Angelou stated in Tyler Perry’s “Madea’s Family Reunion”. I must add that real men know how important a title is for a woman. Any men who thinks differently of that statement, is still venturing in their boyhood and that is okay for a person who does not desire a relationship.

Let me start by saying that it is awesome that you two have built your relationship off of friendship. Friendship is vital because everyday will not be romantic and filled with a candle lit dinner. That is where friendship comes into place. It is so important to enjoy a person and spending time with them.

Now to get to your question . . .

Effective communication built on honesty is KEY because you have to be able to effectively talk to your partner about your needs, concerns and ideas. When you create an open and comfortable environment where two people can communicate, growth can occur. Lets face it, the longer you are with a person, the more boring things can become.

I strongly suggest that couples create a bucket list of new things to try out. Your bucket list can be as follow:

• skydiving

• walking the Brooklyn Bridge

• a picnic at Central Park

• hiking

When you set goals and dates to accomplish those goals, you both will not only be excited to actually look forward to something; memories are made. If you are having a difficult time thinking of great activities to do together, download the app Pinterest. There is no shame with obtaining assistance. The app has GREAT activities that can be done while keeping things fun and exciting. I personally would explore the various options together and create a physical list that the two of you can check off as you complete each activity.

Another suggestion I would like to make is to set aside at least one day during the week (this number will vary if you are in a long distant relationship) to have a date night.

I have heard many married people say that you should never stop dating your husband or wife. I believe that is very true as it pertains to relationships. Never stop dating! There is nothing wrong with setting time aside to dress up for your love or put on some gym clothes to go on a hiking date. You and your boo should take turns planning the outings or in some cases stay at home dinners and more. Time can be taken for granted if effort is not made. So when you plan, be sure to actually put in effort. A great time well spent does not need to break your bank. Research some cost effective ideas.

Last but definitely not the least, talk, talk, and guess what…talk some more. Talk not only about your day at work but talk about your dreams and goals. Encourage one another to tap into your own individual purpose. The more you share about your dreams and are actively pursuing it with your love by your side; the more you can begin to see how he or she fits perfectly or in some cases imperfectly in your vision. You are forced to see beyond the romantics and you begin to see a future. Now that is exciting! Even when you have your dry and boring moments with your boo, you know that there is a reason that the two of you are together. You are more willing to work things out through the tough seasons.

Making a relationship last while still having fun takes work, time and financial investment. If two people want to be and stay together, two people will put forth the time and attributes that follows that desire.

Yours Truly,

Miss Joy